I Ching #42 Increasing
The superior man sets his person at rest before he moves; he composes his mind before he speaks; he makes his relations firm before he asks for something. By attending to these three matters, the superior man gains complete security. But if a man is brusque in his movements, others will not co-operate. If he is agitated in his words, they awaken no echo in others. If he asks for something without having first established relations, it will not be given to him. If no one is with him, those who would harm him draw near.
He follows the good as quickly as the wind and corrects his faults as firmly as thunder. … If he does not keep his heart constantly steady, misfortune will befall him. The energy of loving kindness keeps his heart steady in the face of all turbulence.